Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Pondering....


We received an email to schedule our 12 month follow up post placement with our awesome home study agency. We are coming up on a 1 year- how can that be ? Getting the email really got me thinking....when we adopted Mia I was so excited to have a big bash the following year to celebrate gotcha day, the day that she was placed in my arms. Mia's gotcha day was so exciting and I felt such a love towards her. With Eli I don't have the same feeling about Gotcha day. Honestly I would rather forget that day all together. There was a time where I seriously thought that he would not stay with me and that we would have to disrupt the adoption. Looking back at the pictures it truly breaks my heart. Eli was so distraught. He was so scared. I am certain that both Madeline and I are scarred and will never forget his primal grief that day.


So with that I think that we will do things a little different. I think we will celebrate the day that Eli arrived home on March 20 th, the day that we were reunited and all together again as a family.

8 comments:

Jill W said...

What a long way he has come in one short year!

Kristen said...

I can't believe it's a year already. He really is such a brave guy. Hope to meet him someday:)

Sara W. said...

That's what we did too...and I think the kids loved that we had a BIG family celebration (Chinese takeout, but still..oh and cupcakes). We celebrated all of us being together as a family.

Great post!

*no more office visits, just some reports from the boy himself saying, "it was just a small naughty." Oh wonderful, at least it was small.

The Montieth Family said...

Shelli~
I think that it's a great idea to celebrate on the 2oth of March! Each adoption is different. ;) I have heard that "older" child adoptions can be initally difficult. Eli looks SO HAPPY NOW.

Ron said...

Great idea to celebrate it then. You all came a long way and he's lucky to have you.

Difference2This1 said...

Sounds like arriving home day is a perfect day to acknowledge with Eli. Things are certainly diffent when you adopt an older child and it seems staying flexible might just be the common theme in figuring out how to handle all the challenges it brings!! God bless, Jennifer

Sara W. said...

I take that back...another office visit coming up soon (sigh!!). And let me tell you....I can give you reasons from New York to Cali as to why he does what he does. Of course, they are believable...if you are 7yrs.old.

Alyson and Ford said...

Have wonderful family celebration! Yes, older children can grieve in much "bigger" ways. So glad you are making progress. Love and more love.

Alyzabeth's Mommy